What is your idea of a perfect marriage? According to the bible, a marriage between 2 persons should be like Christ’s love to his bride, the church. A man should love his wife with all his heart, much like Jesus who goes through so many trials and tribulations so that He can be with His bride.
Now oftentimes, it is the woman who will have issues such as tantrums, unfulfilled expectations and maybe demands from their husbands! The bride represents the people who will love back according to how she is first loved, perhaps it’s even selfish but the man will be the one who will first love and chose his bride and teach her how to love. It’s never the other way around.
That is also symbolic to how Christ comes to this world, to the people that He loves so much, to the extend of dying for us, and wanting our love in return. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love for us in this; while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Can you imagine the measure of God’s love for us? That He died for undeserving people on the cross, people that do not know Him, people that don’t really regard Him as a sovereign God so that the way is open for us to go back to His kingdom. And so a marriage relationship is a symbol of God’s love for us on earth, we love because we are first loved by Him. Most of the time, a marriage built on our very own understanding may give up on us. Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not easily broken. What does the bible meant with a cord of three strands? Well it’s simply to put Him in between the marriage, to acknowledge His sovereignty and His will for our marriage.
A lot of times I think and ponder based on my own understanding, as to how my own marriage should be and to be honest, I have my very own list of expectations on how my marriage should end up. When these happens, my thoughts are usually not in sync with what my creator wants from me and I knew I’ve strayed. My expectations are never met of course but during the course of my relationship, I’ve learnt to accept and to be contented with my thoughts on these issues. I know God exists, in fact every second of the day I am reminded of what He has done for us and His will for us to be together. When 2 persons entered into matrimony, it is a very solemn commitment between them to not only enter into adulthood and responsibilities, but to stay true and trust that God will be there to guide them through whatever trials that they may face throughout their relationship.